…It’s as though we are going through a collective shift that is calling us all deeper into our truth. Deeper into our capacity to hold and be held. Deeper into the courage it will take to listen closer. Deeper into the depths of our potential and ability to truly love ourselves and others…to love not only what is delightful, but what is also difficult.
Our life is a dynamic and ever evolving work of art. It’s full of mystery and magic, pleasure and pain, seeking and surety. And what I know in my bones is this…we are not here to find anything (happiness, purpose, meaning, love)…we are here to CREATE it.
Are you living the life you know you’re meant to live or do you secretly feel envious of others success or adventures?
Do you wake up excited for your day ahead or do you feel lackluster about it, even dread it?
Are you challenged in all the right ways, leaning into your growth edge and feeling enlivened by the obstacles in front of you…or do you feel a heavy internal force holding you back from taking powerful action towards your potential?
Do you make lemonade when life gives you lemons, or do you fall into a rut of self-defeating habits when your world is painted yellow?
…In a world where we’re told that ‘faster, bigger, better’ is success and ‘having it all together’ is what will make you happy - it’s no wonder we tend to avoid exposing our messy truths, in particular, the messy truths of change…
…However, when we live, love, and lead from this place, we feel whole and undivided within ourselves. We become untangled, we are more clear and confident about our next steps, and we feel the sweet notes of our unique existence (harmony) in both the tension and the release of our life.
So today I’m sharing with you a process I created to help you discover and define your core values.
…Yet, those things didn’t lead me to lasting happiness either.
Again and again, I had chosen a very different approach to life, yet there I was…confused, ashamed to admit the truth, even to myself, thinking, “Why am I not happier?” I ran in the opposite direction, yet ended up exactly where I was seeing everyone else. Unfulfilled.
Purpose - a sense of meaningful accomplishment and contribution that truly feels like a gift to ourself and to the world…because we know that living is giving and change making belongs to all of us.
We are the Seekers of “what else is possible?”
Presence - a deeper connection to who we are in this world, what our values are, how we want to show up, and a clear roadmap for continued growth…because we know this precious life of ours is a perennial journey and who we are being always, always precedes what we do.
We are the Devotees of depth.
Peace of mind - a confidence that resides from within enabling us to lean into the messy as much as the marvelous. There is a feeling of sacred celebration for this life that leads us to act without attachment (we are more curious than afraid), to see our goals not as a place to arrive at, but rather, a place to come from, and to do the work (even when it’s hard)….because we trust, no matter what, we will be okay.
We are the Changemakers courageous enough to bring our full self to the world.
“Most people live a Reported on Life. “The economy is tough… My boss is unfair… My boyfriend doesn’t understand me…” They react to life. Often they complain about it. “Life’s unfair… It’s alright for them… I wish I had your opportunities…” But there is another way to approach life….”
It’s one thing to fulfill our deepest aspirations, but it’s a whole other thing to arrive there with levity, courage, and joy. In today’s short video above, I share with you one of the most powerful things I have learned on my journey to fulfillment.
I consider myself a world traveler, with countries like Brazil, Peru, Nicaragua, and Thailand gracing my well-worn passport. Yet, the United States, the country I was born in an lived most of my life, was a country I had done very little exploring within…
In today’s very first Mentor Musings VLOG, I share five SOULutions to filter through all your big, beautiful ideas and how to take aligned action, when you feel a lack of motivation and follow through.
When I was a young girl I had a neurological disorder that created a lot of confusion in my brain, and thus my little world. I didn't see things as most saw them and I didn't process things as most processed them. When I tried to explain my perspective, it was often received with frustration and confusion by others. Because of this, I often felt very alone in the world...even when I wasn't.
I sat with it and felt it in my bones - the anger, the love, the sadness, the conviction, and ultimately…the peace it generated in the depths of me. I journaled on it. I spoke about it. I created my work in the world based on it.
I know who I am and what I’m made of, because of it.
Have you ever felt like life was so ‘on the go’ that you didn’t realize just how deeply tired you were, until a circumstance (good or bad) presented itself, carving out the space for you to notice the depth of it?
This experience is about awakening the changemaker in you. It’s about discovering, creating, and sharing your gifts with more authenticity and depth. It’s about singing your song with more confidence and courage. Its about more honesty navigating the messy parts of life so you can be more present for the marvelous parts. It’s about growing, contributing, and celebrating life with more joy, more ease, and more presence. It’s about bringing your full self to the world - owning all parts of you and your story and making beautiful art out of YOU and your precious life. The Changemakers Circle is about mining your soul for gold and creating more beauty in your life, your loved ones life, your community, and even the world at large.
Most people truly believe that if they just had more money, the things that make them unhappy would disappear and their lives would be better. And though it’s true that money can make life more comfortable, it’s not the answer to these deeper calls for happiness, joy, meaning, and fulfillment. Absolutely, it’s a piece of a grander puzzle and can create a lot more ease and security, but the answer to your questions abouthappiness can only be found in a much deeper well.
One of my favorite quotes is by a true changemaker, Aung San Suu Kyi. She says, “If you are feeling helpless, help someone.” These wise words, spoken by a Burmese woman who spent 15 years under house arrest as a political prisoner after she began speaking out publicly on issues of democracy and human rights.
I open with this story to honor the voices of women everywhere and this week in particular, the voice of mothers.
In honor of women and mothers everywhere, I’d like to introduce you to Charity: Water, a change-making organization that my business proudly supports.
When I was a child I use to daydream about living a life where I could be myself fully. But as a little one I deeply feared rejection due to some ‘learned’ experiences from society. I was a charismatic and vivacious little girl who also had a neurological disorder, which inherently made me ‘different.’ I remember being ostracized by schoolmates (including my childhood best friend) after ‘I was found out’ due to having seizures in school. No doubt, it imprinted on me some strong beliefs about myself and the world (that I no longer hold).
Did you know that the odds of you being born - You, at the moment in time you were born, to the parents you were born to, with your unique DNA structure, is 1 in 400 trillion! Imagine that! 1: 400,000,000,000,000 - that's A LOT of zeros.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your very existence is EXTRAORDINARY. You are already enough by the very nature of your presence. So my question to you then is this...
Are you living up to that legacy? Do you feel that your potential in life, love, and leadership is being tapped into? Or you are 'waiting for a better time' - when the kids are grown, when you have more money, when life isn't so busy. when you know more. when you're 'more' ready.
I once heard someone say, "Confidence. It's not a pre-requisite for bold action, but it is the RESULT of bold action."
Confidence is something we all want more of - more confidence to land that deal, to take that risk, to follow our dreams, to get on that stage, to write that book, to ask that person out on a date. The paradox here is... you've got to first be willing to go for what you want to develop the confidence you think you need to get it. ha!
I personally find it to be a daily practice to hold onto and act on what I know to be true for me. My desires that come from a deep calling, a yearning from the soul - and to move forward, despite myself. Despite my doubts that maybe I miss heard the call, or maybe I won't add up to the calls expectations, maybe I won't add up to my expectations, maybe I won't be good enough.
So today I am going to share with you 3 powerful lessons I have learned that have shaped me and guided me over the years. They are the 3 things I know for sure about confidence. I hope it helps release some of that nagging doubt that sometimes seems stronger than you (but we both know you're stronger than your doubt). Here's to you and your confidence...